But...if my life was perfect....
I would not:
Be sensitive
Be compassionate
Be understanding of other people--of the world around me
Be flexible in how I approach and accomplish physical tasks
Be flexible in how I view the diversity of people, beliefs, and cultures
Be awe-struck by beauty around me
Be wonder-filled about life within and around me--life distant from me
Be appreciative of basic human capacities--thinking, and walking, to name a few
Be attentive to how words are used--how I use words
Be attentive to how my words and actions affect other people I know and do not know
Be blessed with a sense of humor
Be determined to live my life fully
Be passionate about pursuing my interests
Be interested in learning every day--each moment--of my life
Be willing to apologize when I had offended someone else, or stolen someone's dignity
Be dedicated to fulfilling my human potential, and encouraging others to do so
Be open to the notion that this list is not complete
Be baptized...be willing to seek an ongoing living of baptism
If My Life Were Perfect, I Would Not Be Human.
I will reflect on our fast-paced, deadline-driven world. As a Universalist, I learned that there is good to be found in all faith traditions. As a practicing Catholic, prayerful, reflective individuals inspire me. My prayer is simple. May we live each day in awe--in wondrous awe.
Word Verification...Accessibility...
Spamming necessitates the temporary use of "captchas," which are more commonly known as "word verification." The childhood act of spamming leads me to take this action temporarily.
I am well aware, and saddened by the fact, that while captchas filter out--thwart--spammers, they also make the act of making comments impossible for individuals who use screen readers.
Be assured, I am working to rectify that situation.
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Sunday, April 21, 2013
Intentional Failings. Human Potential.
Be it Mom's "focus on the positive, and ignore on the negative" mantra, strengthened by my necessary modification of that mantra, "focus on the positive and learn from the negative," not since my junior high school cry, "Mom, don't you know I can't do that!" have I allowed myself to itemize "the negative" and use that low "bank [of capabilities] balance" deter me from investing my life in what I could do. In fact, many times, truth be told, use of "the negative" as a justification for not acting or doing a given task leads me to cry out in opposition.
The Boston Marathon Bombings suspect has led me to revisit my mantra, "Focus on the positive and learn from the negative."
We have not heard from the the Boston Marathon bombings suspect regarding his motivations and intent. I have not addressed--I cannot--my questions, or feelings with him. Only in prayers seeking understanding have I done so.
I believe he might describe some failing in his upbringing that led him to his actions. Failings in his perceptions of given aspects of his upbringing. Economic situation. Family dynamic. Social interactions in the community. Experiences and influences of formative years--of current worldview, have overridden any belief in his power to learn from his experiences and influences, and dedicate himself to others not experiencing the same situation.
Two caveats. First, the actions--the intents--of the individuals or groups credited with causing the negative experiences and influences must be separated from the individuals or groups credited so credited.
Second, condemning other human beings for any action overlooks a fundamental reality. We are all human beings created with enduring frailty. As hard as we may try, we cannot escape the fact we fail our potential.
Our enduring human frailty is not an excuse, or a justification for acting with intentional failing--from intentional failings. Intentional failings that rise to the threshold of criminality must be treated as such.
We must strive to achieve to our human potential--forever and in all ways. Failing to do so is the ultimate intentional failing we may commit with our lives.
The Boston Marathon Bombings suspect has led me to revisit my mantra, "Focus on the positive and learn from the negative."
We have not heard from the the Boston Marathon bombings suspect regarding his motivations and intent. I have not addressed--I cannot--my questions, or feelings with him. Only in prayers seeking understanding have I done so.
I believe he might describe some failing in his upbringing that led him to his actions. Failings in his perceptions of given aspects of his upbringing. Economic situation. Family dynamic. Social interactions in the community. Experiences and influences of formative years--of current worldview, have overridden any belief in his power to learn from his experiences and influences, and dedicate himself to others not experiencing the same situation.
Two caveats. First, the actions--the intents--of the individuals or groups credited with causing the negative experiences and influences must be separated from the individuals or groups credited so credited.
Second, condemning other human beings for any action overlooks a fundamental reality. We are all human beings created with enduring frailty. As hard as we may try, we cannot escape the fact we fail our potential.
Our enduring human frailty is not an excuse, or a justification for acting with intentional failing--from intentional failings. Intentional failings that rise to the threshold of criminality must be treated as such.
We must strive to achieve to our human potential--forever and in all ways. Failing to do so is the ultimate intentional failing we may commit with our lives.
Wednesday, April 25, 2012
Prayer...A Nascent Transformation...
The Hail Mary.
Shall we pray? Sister Immaculata proffered.
Hail Mary, full of grace.
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
And, blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God.
Pray for us,
Now, and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
Seat of wisdom, pray for us.
The prayer was a reverential invitation to understand words new to me. I was never sure whether the words were, "Seat of wisdom, pray for us," or, "Seed of wisdom, pray for us." Yet, somehow, that detail did not matter. Both Seat and Seed confirmed a nascent transformation yet to be lived.
Hail Mary, Full of Grace.
As inexplicable as the Hail Mary's beauty on my first hearing 30 years ago is its beauty today. Whenever an ambulance passes by me, the Hail Mary comes to my ears. I do not recite it at other times. Yet, at the moments of urgent need--the need of others--the Hail Mary is given to me to utter.
I have no Rosary beads. I do not know the Rosary. I do not pray the Rosary. Not by my judgment of its value. Rosary has been in my vocabulary for nary three decades. Maybe in seven more decades, I will know the Rosary. Maybe in seven decades I may pray the Rosary.
Others better versed than I could recite the precise chapter and verse. Yet, I have heard it said that we need not fear, when needs arise we shall be given the appropriate words to utter. Whether spoken aloud, or held in my heart, confidence is given, and fears assuaged. Blessed by and with a faith-filled worship community, and Christians who care deeply about the heart and soul--far more than structures they enter, no longer is prayer a formula I grab from off the rack. I cannot explain its shape--its form. Thirty years ago, a formula. Today, a precious mystery. Thirty years from now? A precious mystery to be lived, not feared.
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Prayer...It Makes No Sense to Me...
On April 25, 1982, had you asked me, "what does prayer mean to you," I would have said, "Lord Make Me an Instrument of Thy Peace," "The Hail Mary," and "Peace be with You."
Formulated. Off the Rack prayers ready for those wanting to wear religion on their sleeve.
Not quite. I had--I have--a deep love for each of those prayers.
Without knowing his name, The Prayer of St. Francis, St. Francis was introduced to me by a Christian choir director in junior high school--in a public school, no less, much to the chagrin of my parents. A Christian--not a Catholic--choir director.
Lord, make me an instrument of thy peace.
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
Where there is injury, pardon;
Where there is doubt, faith;
Where there is despair, hope;
Where there is darkness, light;
And, where there is sadness, joy;
Grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled, as to console.
To be understood as to understand.
To be loved, as to love.
For it is in the giving that we receive.
In the pardoning that we are pardoned.
And, it is in the dying,
That we are born to eternal life.
My maternal grandfather--Ray, a man who abhorred anything Catholic--would be horrified to hear me say so, yet, his inheritance to me, "Don't feel sad when I die, I have made amends with everyone [with whom] I had differences," reaffirmed what St. Francis told me.
Prayer.
It makes no sense to me. Words that speak such truth. Words--it is in the dying that we are born to eternal life--far from affirmed in my childhood home, in my family--speak such truth to me. It makes no sense. Yet, they are true.
Sunday, April 8, 2012
Calculation of an Ankle...Solving for X...
Algebra was never my forte. Yet, now I understand applied algebra, or I think I do. Applied algebra, or is it Christian algebra. You tell me.
Walking from the bus to church--or at least to an intersection at which someone from church welcomes me into their car--is a very prayerful time. Today came "the Calculation of an Ankle and a Hip--my Ankle, and My Hip."
My memory has faded. I do believe that algebra is adding several factors to solve for X. The young Patty did not understand. Humor this nearly 52-year-old woman, as she solves for X.
Factors.
Oxford Dictionaries defines factors as "expression by which another is exactly divisible."
Variables.
Oxford Dictionaries defines variable as "a quantity that during calculation is assumed to vary or be capable of varying." I am not satisfied with any definition that uses another form of itself to define itself. Vary is a verb, whereas variable is a noun. Therefore, let us define the verb. Vary is defined as, "differ in size, amount, degree, or nature from something else of the same general class."
My eyes are starting to glaze over now. Let me offer just one more definition to solve for X.
Constants. Oxford defines constants as, "noun. a situation or state of affairs that does not change." The example offered is ironic--truly ironic. "the condition of struggle remained a constant."
Definitions are established. Let us proceed.
A multitude of factors makes solving for X complex. However, it is essential.
X=Living inspired by, and insightful from, the lessons my ankle--my osteoarthritis--my cerebral palsy, and my epilepsy have taught, and continue to teach me.
X=Sharing the inspirations, the insights my disabilities--my life conditions have given me; advocating for the full living of each of our individual life conditions.
Constants.
Brain damage. Cerebral palsy. Osteoarthritis. Intentional tremors. Epilepsy.
Factors.
Inner calm. Humor. Optimism. Keen listening.
Variables.
Humidity. Distance traveled on my ankle. Weight borne on my left hip, and my right ankle. Do I listen to my body--to her instructions regarding my pace, and my activity?
This morning I witnessed the baptisms of three babies. The priest affirmed truth. The babies are entering a world far more difficult than those of us, who are older.
"There are no easy answers."
The priest asked the community, whether we were willing to offer support to the parents in raising their newly baptized children. His request was not hollow. Clear was how much we are called to share the joys and the sorrows with other people we meet--other people with whom we are in communion. I try not to feel discouragement. Yet, our unwillingness to share both our joys and our sorrows, and our strengths, and our vulnerabilities is a sad commentary on our commitment to our lives.
Why is it so hard to solve for X? What are our joys? What are our sorrows? Are we inspired in our lives? By what? By whom? Are we mindful of any insights in our day? What are they? Do we share them?
Why is self-disclosure so difficult? What is our purpose, if we are not to disclose our selves?
Why is it so difficult to solve for X?
Walking from the bus to church--or at least to an intersection at which someone from church welcomes me into their car--is a very prayerful time. Today came "the Calculation of an Ankle and a Hip--my Ankle, and My Hip."
My memory has faded. I do believe that algebra is adding several factors to solve for X. The young Patty did not understand. Humor this nearly 52-year-old woman, as she solves for X.
Factors.
Oxford Dictionaries defines factors as "expression by which another is exactly divisible."
Variables.
Oxford Dictionaries defines variable as "a quantity that during calculation is assumed to vary or be capable of varying." I am not satisfied with any definition that uses another form of itself to define itself. Vary is a verb, whereas variable is a noun. Therefore, let us define the verb. Vary is defined as, "differ in size, amount, degree, or nature from something else of the same general class."
My eyes are starting to glaze over now. Let me offer just one more definition to solve for X.
Constants. Oxford defines constants as, "noun. a situation or state of affairs that does not change." The example offered is ironic--truly ironic. "the condition of struggle remained a constant."
Definitions are established. Let us proceed.
A multitude of factors makes solving for X complex. However, it is essential.
X=Living inspired by, and insightful from, the lessons my ankle--my osteoarthritis--my cerebral palsy, and my epilepsy have taught, and continue to teach me.
X=Sharing the inspirations, the insights my disabilities--my life conditions have given me; advocating for the full living of each of our individual life conditions.
Constants.
Brain damage. Cerebral palsy. Osteoarthritis. Intentional tremors. Epilepsy.
Factors.
Inner calm. Humor. Optimism. Keen listening.
Variables.
Humidity. Distance traveled on my ankle. Weight borne on my left hip, and my right ankle. Do I listen to my body--to her instructions regarding my pace, and my activity?
This morning I witnessed the baptisms of three babies. The priest affirmed truth. The babies are entering a world far more difficult than those of us, who are older.
"There are no easy answers."
The priest asked the community, whether we were willing to offer support to the parents in raising their newly baptized children. His request was not hollow. Clear was how much we are called to share the joys and the sorrows with other people we meet--other people with whom we are in communion. I try not to feel discouragement. Yet, our unwillingness to share both our joys and our sorrows, and our strengths, and our vulnerabilities is a sad commentary on our commitment to our lives.
Why is it so hard to solve for X? What are our joys? What are our sorrows? Are we inspired in our lives? By what? By whom? Are we mindful of any insights in our day? What are they? Do we share them?
Why is self-disclosure so difficult? What is our purpose, if we are not to disclose our selves?
Why is it so difficult to solve for X?
Saturday, March 24, 2012
PeaceNext...Intimate...Self-Disclosure...
During the 1960s, long before the advent of the World Wide Web, and social media, my parents involved our family in a foreign exchange program of social workers--the Twin Cities International Program--TCIP. Mom and Dad served as a host family to Knut from Denmark, Ilsa from Austria, Jun Bok from South Korea, and a man, whose name I believe was Daniel. These three men and one woman stayed with us during four years before I was ten. Knut seemed old to me, although he was probably 50:) Mature may be a more apt description than old. He was tall with balding light brown hair. I remember he gave me a book of Hans Christian Anderson's fairy tales. I think Mom and Dad still have the book. It has been many years since I have read the book. It is fairly small book with an ivory cover, and a picture on the front cover. Then there was Ilsa. Her father carved wood. Mom and Dad still have a shallow wooden plate with the names of my parents, my brother, sister, and me, carved around the edge. My parents have it mounted on the wall at the top of the bookshelves in their library. I can think of no more treasured symbol of our family. I do not remember much about Daniel, other than that he was from Italy. Jun Bok. Ah yes, Jun Bok. He was a borderline operator--definitely a character. He gave my parents at least one bottle of tabasco sauce. More memorable was his observation of my dad trying to assemble a new Weber grill. Dad was having the difficulty inherent to any item with the instructions, "Some assembly required." After watching Dad struggle for quite some time, Jun Bok said, "American technology. Nothing works." Jun Bok returned to South Korea many years ago. I do not know what has happened to him. Yet his words live on in my memory.
Each of the individuals we hosted, in addition to individuals from all around the world--not just Europe and Asia--who visited our home and attended a number of pool parties my parents hosted broadened my childhood horizons. Although I have not kept up with any of the individuals--a sad reality of life--I do bring from that experience openness to, and individuals from other countries.
I treasure the perspectives I have been given when I have spent time with individuals from other countries while at home, or when I have visited other countries. I will always remember with great fondness the conversations I had with a number of individuals from Norway while I spent nine days as a graduate school course. The Norwegians I met apologized to me for their poor English speaking skills. Such was not the case. My understanding of Norwegian was rudimentary at best. Yet, my love of the country--the fjords, the brisk air--is difficult to describe.
Now I find my connections to individuals in other countries through the World Wide Web--through e-mail, and social media. A skeptical eye is given to social media. I would warn against brandishing all social media outlets on the basis of how some individuals on some sites choose to use the sites.
PeaceNext. I am an incorrigible pacifist. Some say pacifist is synonymous with weakness, in a pejorative sense. I beg to differ. My interest in ecumenism led me to the PeaceNext website. The subtitle following the "PeaceNext" website title says, "Council for a Parliament of World Religions."
How, as someone raised to believe that there is good to be found in all world religions, could I pass up the opportunity to explore a network committed to integrity in nurturing constructive dialogue. Slowly I find myself open to friendship from around the world.
Some hesitate to engage in online networks of any form due to concerns for security, or personal disclosure. Others hesitate to engage in discussions of religion--it is too personal. Well....On one level--on an intellectual level--I understand. I respect the right of other individuals to not so engage.
Yet....yet....I cannot follow suit. It was not until this moment that I understood why. I am not a Bible-thumping woman on the street corner trying to force beliefs down people's throats. I try to be more subtle than that.
Long before I understood the intellectual nuances--the spiritual dimension--of engaging in social communities rooted in integrity, such as PeaceNext, I was confronted with the reality of bodily engagement. Not physical combat. No. Misunderstanding of my bent right arm, and my limping right leg led my peers to tease me. Kids mimicking my bent right wrist of my face was, "Palsy Patty." I was called to make myself understood--to make myself palatable in the eyes of people who met me.
No one may endanger me. My exterior is deceiving. As my sister says of me, "I don't worry about Patty out on the streets, I worry about the people who encounter her."
My life calls me to unequivocal self-disclosure. If I do not share of myself--if I do not reach out to other people-what am I living to do? I am called to find opportunities, such as PeaceNext, and other in-person, and online forums for the sharing of diverse perspectives dedicated to deeper understanding, and transformation.
Each of the individuals we hosted, in addition to individuals from all around the world--not just Europe and Asia--who visited our home and attended a number of pool parties my parents hosted broadened my childhood horizons. Although I have not kept up with any of the individuals--a sad reality of life--I do bring from that experience openness to, and individuals from other countries.
I treasure the perspectives I have been given when I have spent time with individuals from other countries while at home, or when I have visited other countries. I will always remember with great fondness the conversations I had with a number of individuals from Norway while I spent nine days as a graduate school course. The Norwegians I met apologized to me for their poor English speaking skills. Such was not the case. My understanding of Norwegian was rudimentary at best. Yet, my love of the country--the fjords, the brisk air--is difficult to describe.
Now I find my connections to individuals in other countries through the World Wide Web--through e-mail, and social media. A skeptical eye is given to social media. I would warn against brandishing all social media outlets on the basis of how some individuals on some sites choose to use the sites.
PeaceNext. I am an incorrigible pacifist. Some say pacifist is synonymous with weakness, in a pejorative sense. I beg to differ. My interest in ecumenism led me to the PeaceNext website. The subtitle following the "PeaceNext" website title says, "Council for a Parliament of World Religions."
How, as someone raised to believe that there is good to be found in all world religions, could I pass up the opportunity to explore a network committed to integrity in nurturing constructive dialogue. Slowly I find myself open to friendship from around the world.
Some hesitate to engage in online networks of any form due to concerns for security, or personal disclosure. Others hesitate to engage in discussions of religion--it is too personal. Well....On one level--on an intellectual level--I understand. I respect the right of other individuals to not so engage.
Yet....yet....I cannot follow suit. It was not until this moment that I understood why. I am not a Bible-thumping woman on the street corner trying to force beliefs down people's throats. I try to be more subtle than that.
Long before I understood the intellectual nuances--the spiritual dimension--of engaging in social communities rooted in integrity, such as PeaceNext, I was confronted with the reality of bodily engagement. Not physical combat. No. Misunderstanding of my bent right arm, and my limping right leg led my peers to tease me. Kids mimicking my bent right wrist of my face was, "Palsy Patty." I was called to make myself understood--to make myself palatable in the eyes of people who met me.
No one may endanger me. My exterior is deceiving. As my sister says of me, "I don't worry about Patty out on the streets, I worry about the people who encounter her."
My life calls me to unequivocal self-disclosure. If I do not share of myself--if I do not reach out to other people-what am I living to do? I am called to find opportunities, such as PeaceNext, and other in-person, and online forums for the sharing of diverse perspectives dedicated to deeper understanding, and transformation.
Monday, January 9, 2012
Compassion
Compassion.
Compassion gets a bad wrap. Weak. Idealistic. Hopeless. Unrealistic.
I am not among those bad rappers. I believe in compassion. I believe in its ideal. I live by its hope.
Never before this week have a found a haven of individuals willing to admit--to affirm--their commitment to act with compassion--to live with and by compassion.
We live in a world of instant gratification. Impatience. Deadlines. As unsavory as those realities may be, these are facts of life.
So, how do we counteract those societal pressures--those necessities of a working world--a healthy economy? Some may say that there is no way to achieve those objectives. We live in the world of Facebook, Twitter. So, what hope is there to affirm--to advocate for--compassion?
Compassion. Achievable. If so committed--if so wiling--you do have opportunities. You do have options.
PeaceNext. Charter for Compassion. Two opportunities.
PeaceNext. Social media need not be frivolous. Peace Next. The Facebook of Compassion. Global. Ecumenical. Faith-filled. Committed.
I am new in my understanding of Peace Next. Yet, I am committed to following my instincts. As a lifelong pacifist, I am more than willing to open myself to this venue of hope.
Interreligious dialogue. Ecumenism. A Parliament of World Religions its aspiration.
In developing the World Wide Web--the human exchange of information and knowledge--within the architectural structure of the Internet, Tim Berners-Lee wrote of the opportunities for free, global communication, which are offered by such forums as PeaceNext.
Given a forum, concrete actions are the next steps necessary to give Compassion a firm foundation. So, what actions? Where do I give my voice to compassion???
The Charter for Compassion offers a wellspring of opportunity.
The Charter is distinct from PeaceNext. The Charter for Compassion sets forth commonsense principles to commit yourself to--to make yourself accountable to others. The Charter for Compassion offers the space, where you may commit yourself to intentions of compassion not listed.
In my humble opinion PeaceNext, and The Charter for Compassion are the World Wide Web at its very best.
Commit yourself to Compassion.
Compassion gets a bad wrap. Weak. Idealistic. Hopeless. Unrealistic.
I am not among those bad rappers. I believe in compassion. I believe in its ideal. I live by its hope.
Never before this week have a found a haven of individuals willing to admit--to affirm--their commitment to act with compassion--to live with and by compassion.
We live in a world of instant gratification. Impatience. Deadlines. As unsavory as those realities may be, these are facts of life.
So, how do we counteract those societal pressures--those necessities of a working world--a healthy economy? Some may say that there is no way to achieve those objectives. We live in the world of Facebook, Twitter. So, what hope is there to affirm--to advocate for--compassion?
Compassion. Achievable. If so committed--if so wiling--you do have opportunities. You do have options.
PeaceNext. Charter for Compassion. Two opportunities.
PeaceNext. Social media need not be frivolous. Peace Next. The Facebook of Compassion. Global. Ecumenical. Faith-filled. Committed.
I am new in my understanding of Peace Next. Yet, I am committed to following my instincts. As a lifelong pacifist, I am more than willing to open myself to this venue of hope.
Interreligious dialogue. Ecumenism. A Parliament of World Religions its aspiration.
In developing the World Wide Web--the human exchange of information and knowledge--within the architectural structure of the Internet, Tim Berners-Lee wrote of the opportunities for free, global communication, which are offered by such forums as PeaceNext.
Given a forum, concrete actions are the next steps necessary to give Compassion a firm foundation. So, what actions? Where do I give my voice to compassion???
The Charter for Compassion offers a wellspring of opportunity.
The Charter is distinct from PeaceNext. The Charter for Compassion sets forth commonsense principles to commit yourself to--to make yourself accountable to others. The Charter for Compassion offers the space, where you may commit yourself to intentions of compassion not listed.
In my humble opinion PeaceNext, and The Charter for Compassion are the World Wide Web at its very best.
Commit yourself to Compassion.
Compassion. Read. Consider. Sign. Live.
The principle of compassion lies at the heart of all
religious, ethical and spiritual traditions, calling us always to treat all
others as we wish to be treated ourselves. Compassion impels us to work
tirelessly to alleviate the suffering of our fellow creatures, to dethrone
ourselves from the centre of our world and put another there, and to honour the
inviolable sanctity of every single human being, treating everybody, without
exception, with absolute justice, equity and respect.
It is also necessary in both public and private life to
refrain consistently and empathically from inflicting pain. To act or speak
violently out of spite, chauvinism, or self-interest, to impoverish, exploit or
deny basic rights to anybody, and to incite hatred by denigrating others—even
our enemies—is a denial of our common humanity. We acknowledge that we have
failed to live compassionately and that some have even increased the sum of
human misery in the name of religion.
We therefore call upon all men and women ~ to restore compassion
to the centre of morality and religion ~ to return to the ancient principle
that any interpretation of scripture that breeds violence, hatred or disdain is
illegitimate ~ to ensure that youth are given accurate and respectful
information about other traditions, religions and cultures ~ to encourage a
positive appreciation of cultural and religious diversity ~ to cultivate an
informed empathy with the suffering of all human beings—even those regarded as
enemies.
We urgently need to make compassion a clear, luminous and
dynamic force in our polarized world. Rooted in a principled determination to
transcend selfishness, compassion can break down political, dogmatic,
ideological and religious boundaries. Born of our deep interdependence,
compassion is essential to human relationships and to a fulfilled humanity. It
is the path to enlightenment, and indispensable to the creation of a just
economy and a peaceful global community.
I encourage you. Please affirm with your name. Embrace commitments of compassion the charter offers. Commit to your own. Share. Live with, by, and for compassion.
Wednesday, December 14, 2011
Dr. Richard Owen
Richard R. Owen M.D.
Owen, Richard R., MD Age 83, died December 11, 2011. Preceded in death
by his parents, John and Ethel Owen; step- mother, Helen "Pat" Owen;
brother, John; and sister, Margaret. Survived by wife, Amy; sister, Suzy
Brickley; daughter, Marnie; sons, Rick (Ann), and Don (Meg); grandchildren,
Lauren Lusk (Jeremy), David Jacobs, David, and Rebecca; as well as many other
relatives. Richard was a doctor of physical medicine and rehabilitation who
practiced in many area hospitals and clinics. Before retiring, he was Medical
Director of Sister Kenny Institute. He enjoyed wheelchair athletics as a
participant and medical examiner. He served on the board of, and went on many
trips with, Wilderness Inquiry. A celebration of his life will be held at First
Unitarian Society of Minneapolis, 900 Mount Curve, Minneapolis at 2 PM on
Saturday, December 17, 2011. Memorial contributions can be made to the Sister
Kenny Foundation, First Unitarian Society of Minneapolis, or Wilderness
Inquiry.
Published in Star Tribune
from December 14 to December 15, 2011http://www.legacy.com/obituaries/startribune/obituary.aspx?n=richard-r-owen&pid=155035415
A gentle man. Wise. Knowing. Far-sighted.
Dr. Owen was my physical rehabilitation medicine doctor in the 1960s. At my first visit--before my first memory, he said, "Stand her up. How far can your daughter walk?"
"Don't you understand? She can't do that! Don't you understand?" my outraged mother exclaimed.
He stood up, transferred his brown, walking cane, and stepped forward. He understood. Polio met this doctor as a teenager. Wise beyond his years, Dr. Owen understood.
From my first memory, Mom and I went to see him to monitor the progression of my cerebral palsy, and identify courses of action we could take. For my part, I met his reflex hammer with a kick in his face. A grateful soul.
"Don't you understand? She can't do that! Don't you understand?" my outraged mother exclaimed.
He stood up, transferred his brown, walking cane, and stepped forward. He understood. Polio met this doctor as a teenager. Wise beyond his years, Dr. Owen understood.
From my first memory, Mom and I went to see him to monitor the progression of my cerebral palsy, and identify courses of action we could take. For my part, I met his reflex hammer with a kick in his face. A grateful soul.
Dr. Owen did not practice medicine. He gave medical care. Practical experience--living with polio since he was a teenager. He was in his 40s, when I received his care.
Dr. Owen knew the terrain of physical rehabilitation--not from a laboratory, but, from real life.
He was at peace with himself--with his life. He was not aggressive. He was affirming--with his manner, with his care. Dr. Owen understood the geography of disability. Without calling attention to "handicap," or "disability," he directed his energies toward how to live as fully as possible.
Dr. Owen earned the requisite schooling to be certified a medical practitioner. With little fanfare, and unwavering trust in his own life experience, he offered personal, medical care.
Thank you, Dr. Owen. Thank you.
Dr. Owen earned the requisite schooling to be certified a medical practitioner. With little fanfare, and unwavering trust in his own life experience, he offered personal, medical care.
Thank you, Dr. Owen. Thank you.
Sunday, November 6, 2011
Changes of Worship
In college, my political science advisor instructed us to begin with the primary source documents, rather than secondary analyses on any given subject. He was not dismissive of the value secondary sources provide. Yet, he advised that any quest for information begin with primary source materials.
Such might be said of the upcoming revisions to the Catholic Mass. Deafening analysis of the changes is being given before the changes have been implemented.
Much is being spoken of the changes that will take place in the Catholic liturgy, before we have an experience of how we will live the changes. Honestly, I do not know what it will mean to live the changes. I do not have the requisite experience to reflect on how change of the Mass I celebrate will change me.
Will it damage me? Will it diminish my spirituality? Will it destroy me?
Liberals are quick to say that religious conservatives, who hold on to the words, and practices of the past, are damaging, diminishing, and destroying the Catholic Church by their resistance. I question that. Rather, I wonder. As a liberal, is there any room within the upcoming changes to enrich my spiritual life--to enrich our communal spiritual life?
I was raised by a father, who experienced rote Catholicism. I entered a Church far different from the one he left. Since 1982, I have been blessed by a wide variety of vibrant faith communities. The closest I came to the Church my father left was my time at a small, traditional Catholic parish several blocks from my home. Although I did not experience vibrancy in much of my time there, I remember with fondness the gift the Irish priest gave each Sunday.
Father Philip nurtured in me a personal bond to God. How?
Children of God, was his invitation. I shudder to think of the foundation I had, when I met him each Sunday. Any intellectual foundation I might have had needed to be instructed--seasoned.
Father Philip's beaming smile, and his deep faith were his invitations. His deep faith was his prayer for mercy.
Forgive us of any skepticism--distrust--of the motives of other people.
Those were not his precise words. Yet, that was the message that I heard.
I did not embrace many of his words. Most of what he said is lost to my memory. Yet, I treasure the personal bond he nurtured.
People of God.
I needed years of instruction, much seasoning, before I was worthy of being invited to, "People of God."
A friend, who was a child during the 1950s, and embraces the Catholic Church that Vatican II has nurtured, offered a telling observation.
"Well, it is back to the 1950s."
I do not have the credibility that living in the 1950s Catholic Church affords. I pray her words may be an invitation, rather than a eulogy.
I do not know what her experiences were. I was born in 1960. I was raised as a Universalist, some say Unitarian.
With that said, I pray.
May we listen to the words we utter. May we breathe the changes that will be ushered into the Catholic Mass. May we exhale the cynicism that some meet the changes. May we come to the changes attentive to the nuances they might offer to us.
I am not an apologist for the changes that Advent will bring. I do not know enough to be so. I welcome the challenge to discover the nuances--to uncover the pearls of wisdom--that the changes might offer.
Such might be said of the upcoming revisions to the Catholic Mass. Deafening analysis of the changes is being given before the changes have been implemented.
Much is being spoken of the changes that will take place in the Catholic liturgy, before we have an experience of how we will live the changes. Honestly, I do not know what it will mean to live the changes. I do not have the requisite experience to reflect on how change of the Mass I celebrate will change me.
Will it damage me? Will it diminish my spirituality? Will it destroy me?
Liberals are quick to say that religious conservatives, who hold on to the words, and practices of the past, are damaging, diminishing, and destroying the Catholic Church by their resistance. I question that. Rather, I wonder. As a liberal, is there any room within the upcoming changes to enrich my spiritual life--to enrich our communal spiritual life?
I was raised by a father, who experienced rote Catholicism. I entered a Church far different from the one he left. Since 1982, I have been blessed by a wide variety of vibrant faith communities. The closest I came to the Church my father left was my time at a small, traditional Catholic parish several blocks from my home. Although I did not experience vibrancy in much of my time there, I remember with fondness the gift the Irish priest gave each Sunday.
Father Philip nurtured in me a personal bond to God. How?
Children of God, was his invitation. I shudder to think of the foundation I had, when I met him each Sunday. Any intellectual foundation I might have had needed to be instructed--seasoned.
Father Philip's beaming smile, and his deep faith were his invitations. His deep faith was his prayer for mercy.
Forgive us of any skepticism--distrust--of the motives of other people.
Those were not his precise words. Yet, that was the message that I heard.
I did not embrace many of his words. Most of what he said is lost to my memory. Yet, I treasure the personal bond he nurtured.
People of God.
I needed years of instruction, much seasoning, before I was worthy of being invited to, "People of God."
I remember earlier experiences going to Mass on campus. I was deeply moved by the weekly exchange, "Peace be with you."
It took me many years to be comfortable with the fullness of the exchange, "May the peace of Christ be with you." My faith--my understanding--was not deep enough to extend myself in that manner. I needed tremendous mercy before I was able to affirm, "May the Peace of Christ be with you."A friend, who was a child during the 1950s, and embraces the Catholic Church that Vatican II has nurtured, offered a telling observation.
"Well, it is back to the 1950s."
I do not have the credibility that living in the 1950s Catholic Church affords. I pray her words may be an invitation, rather than a eulogy.
I do not know what her experiences were. I was born in 1960. I was raised as a Universalist, some say Unitarian.
With that said, I pray.
May we listen to the words we utter. May we breathe the changes that will be ushered into the Catholic Mass. May we exhale the cynicism that some meet the changes. May we come to the changes attentive to the nuances they might offer to us.
I am not an apologist for the changes that Advent will bring. I do not know enough to be so. I welcome the challenge to discover the nuances--to uncover the pearls of wisdom--that the changes might offer.
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Tuesday, September 20, 2011
Stop Bullying: Speak Up Pledge
We all have the power to stop bullying by getting involved and performing simple actions that can make a difference in others' lives. Together we can create a community that is committed to ending bullying. So join me in taking the pledge to Stop Bullying: Speak Up today.
Stop Bullying: Speak Up pledge
http://www.facebook.com/stopbullyingspeakup
I urge you to take the Stop Bullying: Speak Up pledge today.
Whether it be with children, teens, adults--whatever the age--our words matter. It does NOT matter whether or not we know the individuals. EVERYONE deserves basic, human respect. Suicides have resulted, and self-respect damaged over feelings regarding sexual orientation, disabilities, and appearance, to name a few, that have been used as justifications for bullying. Please take this pledge.
Expedite necessary action. First, press http://www.facebook.com/stopbullyingspeakup. Second, press the Take the Pledge icon. Third, add your name. Fourth, press the Like button. Identify yourself as a teen or an adult. Share the Stop Bullying: Speak Up pledge with your friends.
Further action may be taken, if you so choose. First, you may add a Comment to your Pledge Signature. You may join groups of others concerned. Other options are offered on the Stop Bullying: Speak Up Facebook page.
Most powerful are the words you speak--the words you tolerate. Actions you take--actions you tolerate matter as well.
Stop Bullying: Speak Up pledge
http://www.facebook.com/stopbullyingspeakup
I urge you to take the Stop Bullying: Speak Up pledge today.
Whether it be with children, teens, adults--whatever the age--our words matter. It does NOT matter whether or not we know the individuals. EVERYONE deserves basic, human respect. Suicides have resulted, and self-respect damaged over feelings regarding sexual orientation, disabilities, and appearance, to name a few, that have been used as justifications for bullying. Please take this pledge.
Expedite necessary action. First, press http://www.facebook.com/stopbullyingspeakup. Second, press the Take the Pledge icon. Third, add your name. Fourth, press the Like button. Identify yourself as a teen or an adult. Share the Stop Bullying: Speak Up pledge with your friends.
Further action may be taken, if you so choose. First, you may add a Comment to your Pledge Signature. You may join groups of others concerned. Other options are offered on the Stop Bullying: Speak Up Facebook page.
Most powerful are the words you speak--the words you tolerate. Actions you take--actions you tolerate matter as well.
Saturday, August 27, 2011
You Inspire Me
"You inspire me."
I have heard that statement made in regard to me, and to other individuals. I seek understanding. No longer am I the fierce person I was once.
I am a lover of words--a lover of language. I covet proper usage, or so some may say. I live undeterred.
I wonder. I ask the lover of words within me, "What are the roots of inspire?
Cassell's Dictionary of Word Histories offers definitions vital to our contemplation.
Inspire--a transitive verb meaning to stimulate a person to action, especially creative action.
Transitive. What does transitive mean?
Action passing from a subject to an object; having a direct object.
Verb. What does verb mean?
A word used to describe an action, state, or occurrence, and forming the main part of a sentence, such as ashear, become, happen.
These definitions are basic, yet essential to our reflection.
Definitions are the introduction to full understanding. Definitions frame the questions requisite to full understanding. Full use of inspire demands attention to four questions.
1. Do I live with integrity?
2. Do I commit myself to be worthy of action inspired by the action of another human being?
3. Am I willing to act upon the stimulation another individual offers me?
4. Am I willing to be the direct object of another person's action?
The definition of terms are basic, yet vital.
Inspired action is not action for action's sake--obligatory action. Given the choice between obligatory action and no action, no action is preferred.
Inspired action is possible.
I have heard that statement made in regard to me, and to other individuals. I seek understanding. No longer am I the fierce person I was once.
I am a lover of words--a lover of language. I covet proper usage, or so some may say. I live undeterred.
I wonder. I ask the lover of words within me, "What are the roots of inspire?
Cassell's Dictionary of Word Histories offers definitions vital to our contemplation.
Inspire--a transitive verb meaning to stimulate a person to action, especially creative action.
Transitive. What does transitive mean?
Action passing from a subject to an object; having a direct object.
Verb. What does verb mean?
A word used to describe an action, state, or occurrence, and forming the main part of a sentence, such as ashear, become, happen.
These definitions are basic, yet essential to our reflection.
Definitions are the introduction to full understanding. Definitions frame the questions requisite to full understanding. Full use of inspire demands attention to four questions.
1. Do I live with integrity?
2. Do I commit myself to be worthy of action inspired by the action of another human being?
3. Am I willing to act upon the stimulation another individual offers me?
4. Am I willing to be the direct object of another person's action?
The definition of terms are basic, yet vital.
Inspired action is not action for action's sake--obligatory action. Given the choice between obligatory action and no action, no action is preferred.
Inspired action is possible.
You are an Inspiration
Many times, I have heard news features that say, "She is an inspiration."
I do not mean to denigrate good intentions. I offer alternative intentions.
Inspiration is a noun, which is derived from inspire.
-ation is a suffix used to form abstract nouns from verbs. It is sad. To abstract the potency of inspire is sad.
To say, "You are an inspiration to me," does not offer the hope that action will be taken.
I accept the compliment. I celebrate when I--when anyone--may stimulate anyone to leaven the gifts they have been invited to offer.
I wonder. What would the world be if each of us--if all of us--accepted the invitation to fully engage our gifts?
I do not mean to denigrate good intentions. I offer alternative intentions.
Inspiration is a noun, which is derived from inspire.
-ation is a suffix used to form abstract nouns from verbs. It is sad. To abstract the potency of inspire is sad.
To say, "You are an inspiration to me," does not offer the hope that action will be taken.
I accept the compliment. I celebrate when I--when anyone--may stimulate anyone to leaven the gifts they have been invited to offer.
I wonder. What would the world be if each of us--if all of us--accepted the invitation to fully engage our gifts?
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